Can you imagine if I actually said how I was! can you imagine their horror?
I say 'Yeah alright' but what I actually wanna say is 'Bit shit really. My seizures have been bad. I've lost all my confidence. I'm constantly tired and I feel crap coz I eat crap...Got any cake?'
Some people don't wanna ask that question, just in case you do actually tell them how you are. So instead they just avoid you!!
I don't tell people the truth about how I am. I don't suppose many of us do!
Maybe its just something that people say after hello and are not actually asking the question. To avoid the next 'going through the motions' questions. 'So hows your seizures?' 'whens your next scan?' etc etc I do just say 'yeah alright' and then ask them questions about how they are! This normally works and makes some people feel relieved I didn't go into it all.
Sometimes I feel like saying 'well how the fuck do you think I'm doing?'
A lot of the time I don't wanna have to go into an explanation after being asked 'going through the motions questions'
Saying that, Most of the time I do wanna just say 'yeah I'm alright' because then I don't have to go into everything. To explain to people what its like for me or how my day or week has been. I don't have to talk about it or make them feel uncomfortable if I tell the reality of how I actually am.
Other than family I very rarely see anyone anyway (That's not through choice, just the way it works out) So why should I care about the going through the motions questions??
Its when I get texts and the occasional email asking 'how are you?' I want to respond by saying 'well why don't you pop over for a cuppa if your that bothered? or 'I'm lonely and have lost all my friends and wish people wanted to spend time with me, but they don't'......But hey I'll live, or maybe not, or maybe just for a bit!!
I'm not trying to make people feel sorry for me or even play the poor little Jane card. No one apart from family pop in for a cuppa or ask me to theirs. But hey, who'd pop in for a brew after reading this 'don't fucking ask me how I am' post! :-)
How Are Yooooooou only joking. I like the new/old picture and the new name.
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Are you still planning on doing the volunteer work? I think that would help with your confidence etc xxx
ReplyDeleteDo you think people ask, "How are you?" meaning it to sound like a casual question, but really they want to know, "How's the brain tumor?"
ReplyDeleteThat's what I always wonder.
Don't really know!! I always think it is a general 'hi' type question and the last thing they want to know is "how's the brain tumour?" or anything related to it.
ReplyDeleteIf someone say's "how are you?" I usually say "yeah alright" and the conversation moves on. But if someone said "no really, how are you?" that would be something different!
How do you answer the question? do you feel like thats what people are really asking you?